Friday 20 August 2021

Are you an Arjuna or Bhima or Yudhishtira: A Covid pandemic situation analogy

 The 1st chapter of BhagwadGita brings about the "Neurotic" state of Arjuna who is  standing in front of the army he is supposed to be fighting and he is in a great "dwandha" dilemma whether it was right to fight the battle or "retreat" to the jungle by giving up everything. As per the Holy Geetha" by Swami Chinmayananda, this is a symbolic situation of every human being in our day to day life when we are faced with a "crisis" situation especially when the result of the situation is related to losing a life or something as serious as that. In happy times, when we are healthy and fit and doing well, it is much easier to preach and talk about spirituality and do meditation etc. But when we are in the face of an ultimate crisis, and the situation of self is not that positive in terms of health, prosperity etc.. the neurotic condition of Arjuna in the batlefield is an apt comparison to the state of mind that an anxious person can have. Again, Arjuna is a "kshatriya" meaning, he is a dynamic, and alert individual who is completely action oriented and has a restless nature. This also implies that such people have a tendency to be more anxious and display higher levels of energy in a crisis, as compared to a "Brahmana" who would probably have a cool and composed tendency in handling the same situation. So Arjuna is being compared to a person with tendencies of being restless, dynamic, alert, quick minded and action oriented, and  there is a sense of urgency to take quick actions and achieve results quickly.  

An analogy to this situation in real life is when we are faced with a deadly disease which has occurred to a near and dear one and the person is in hospital.  Now, as long as the person is at home, there is a comfort level as we can speak to the person and be next to the person, but the moment the person shifts to the hospital, there is a separation which happens which can be devastating for the person who has tendencies of Arjuna. Because this person expects quick results and actions, and the hospital treatment is always a patient and long one, especially when the case is  a disease like "COVID pneumonia" which is not very well understood by the entire medical fraternity and the hospital doctors follow the SOP( Standard operating Procedure). Now there is a "dwandha" or dilemma in the mind of the person at home, whether to call up every day twice and speak to the patient and the doctors and keep taking inputs, or will it be against the norms in the hospital, especially in a situation where the doctors are overworked with all beds full and continuous streaming in of patients, with many in the critical stage in the ICU. At the same time, a fear of calling up and listening to the negative news that the patient is deteriorating is looming large in the mind. These thoughts run wild and for a person of the temperament like "Arjuna" aka "Kshatriya" will be anxious and try to move ahead of the medical system. Some venturers have taken the ultimate risk of taking full responsibility of the patient and getting them off the hospital. I do not know whether in Mahabharata, Arjuna would have the guts to do something like that, maybe Bhima would have been the right example for such an action.  A Yudhishtira or dharmaraja has more "Brahman" tendencies who will take decisions with lot of calmness and composure and stable in approach as compared to the other two viz. Arjuna and Bhima. 

So what is the right approach? Lessons learnt are the following:-

(a) We only have to perform our actions, results are not in our hands!

(b)  Detach yourself as much as possible from the situation and take positive productive action, like speaking to the doctor and getting the facts right. Take the right decisions, however hard they may be. 

(c)  Mentally be strong to take up any negative news which comes, because life and death is not in our hands and we all come into this world with our "expiry dates" already stamped.

(d) Make the most of every moment, try to talk and make the patient feel good each day, if it is possible. At times, hospital rules don't allow personal mobile communication also. Which is even more frustrating!!

(e)  If you have the tendencies of a Kshatriya like Arjuna, then you have to learn to listen to the Krishna within and build a strong mental energy to take actions and not get affected emotionally. This is very tough and there is bound to be an emotional residue in this case. If you are like "Bhima", the chances of emotional residue is lesser and actions that you take could be very drastic too. An Arjuna cannot act like Bhima, so don't even try!! A yudhishtira like temperament is the perfect example as to how one must react in such a situation. 

(f)  Accept things and have faith and trust, and be positive till the end. Spread positive news and keep talking positive hopeful talks to the patient each day. 

(g)  Work selflessly and with a spirit of Surrender to nature, but try to remove the attachment and take actions that are needed to be taken. 

The emotional upheaval is bound to be there in all irrespective of their temperament and tendencies, but the intensity will be different in different individuals. However, the realization of the tendencies can build awareness and consciousness in all of us, as to what we should be doing in such situations. I have seen people of different temperaments, for eg. I was action oriented and anxious and took proactive action and was always in a sense of urgency( Arjuna like tendencies). On the other hand, another relative was calm and composed and also took proactive action, but was very cool( Yudhishtira like tendencies)! I admired and respected the quality a lot. A third relative was critical and skeptical of the medical authorities and grilled the hell out of the specialists, and was too thorough and went too much in detail about the treatment and what all could be done in addition to what was being done( A mix of Bhima and Yudhishtira). A fourth person just went and got his family discharged forcibly and treated her at home with all facilities created inside the house, even when the patient was critically ill. Surprisingly, the fourth person was able to successfully revive the person with a lot of confident talk of how human beings are much more powerful than a virus. ( The fourth was like Bhima) 

But one cannot really say which is the right approach because the factors are too varying in each case for eg, the age of the patient, the co-morbidities etc.. could govern the survival chances, also the fitness of the person who is ill. There have been contradicting cases of very fit people also succumbing surprisingly. But what is more important is how each one of us handles this situation and accruing losses, if at all, it leads to that. Spirit of winning and hope is most important for any patient and that fighting spirit can only create miracles also in case of any disease. 

My two pence for the Medical System at large( I have a lot of respect for the medical community and this is not intended to find fault or show them down but just some suggestions) :-

(a)  Therefore,  any hospital system must have positive counsellors who sit next to the patient and give them that "urge" to fight and win! Someone like a 'Sports psychologist' should be hired for all ICU patients who can help them visualize the "win" and "victory" against the disease and going back home happily back to the near and dear ones. The doctors should also be talking in a tone of victory and win and not despair or "yard arm" clearance to tell the people that anything could happen and they are doing their best. A winning streak of a sportsman is essential for anyone in the medical fraternity handling serious patients. 

(b)  The environment of an ICU or hospital should be made more positive with hopeful music of a victory song, or josh filled environment should be created. Every patient should feel like a sportsman entering a tournament to win. Change the vibrations in the environment. 

If  this happens, I feel the number of survivors are bound to increase and also the hospital will be a more positive place to visit rather than a fearful environment where every patient feels that he may not come out alive from there. Again, I could be criticized for giving such suggestions, but I feel psychology plays a cardinal role in recovery. 

Thursday 30 July 2020

Five years and more out of Uniform and into Life...

Well, it has been a while since I sat down to pen a few thoughts. Have I been settling down in my new 'avataar'? Has the unguided missile found a final direction? I don't know as of yet, but Yes, a lot of what I had thought of 5 years back before I left my uniform has still stood strong and I am actually living a life what I had envisaged.

As I read my blog written 5 years ago, I loved the statement "from the stale well into the seething oceans of sea state 5 and more". Well, an entrepreneurial life style is well described by this statement, only that I have stopped looking at settling down now and want to remain in action and keep learning each day how to grow and impact more people in this world.

The first few months of the 5 years civvy street life was experimental as I tried doing a job with a shipyard and realised the futility and vanity of it, fortunately much sooner than later and in six months I was out of it. I further did a lot of sensing around to get into the education system, primarily with an intent of impacting youngsters. I did teaching assignments in an Engineering college and also took some private tuitions. Something seemed amiss here too. I was not getting the feeling of happiness and satisfaction being a "professor" of fixed curriculum, though I considered myself pretty good at teaching and did get huge compliments on my teaching styles from faculty as well as students.

"The missile is still astray and seeking a proper direction."

I found an advertisement about career guidance that seemed interesting and immediately called up the number and enquired. They were talking about a structured mechanism of guiding young students and a training to become a mentor. I wanted to explore this opportunity. I visited the office and met a lady there who explained the process of training to me and said that post training I would be eligible to conduct a basic report explanation to students. I was pretty upset and told her that I considered myself much more than just a report explainer. She told me that I would have to go for advanced training to do that. I was not that convinced, but anyways, I was happy with the content and proposal shown to me, so I signed up for this 2 days training program.

And so my journey in "DHEYA" commenced with a 2 days training program where I got introduced to Anand Desai, the founder and CEO and Aditi Bhattacharya, the co-founder. Anand conducted the training and I got introduced to "psychometrics" and a tool to understand the nature of human beings.
It was an amazing tool and I was surprised to see how well it matched with my personality. I suddenly felt that there was a way in which a youngster can actually know what is their inner calling without much difficulty and can take their own decisions of career choices without getting affected by peer pressure and jumping into a rat race.

I was doing this as a part time activity and I got an immediate opportunity to conduct some sessions of students in an engineering college at Islampur and I spent two days there. It was an enriching experience and I was completely bought in by the concept. However, Dheya was a very small organisation and I was skeptical about how this would grow. I started visiting Dheya quite often to meet Anand and started conversations about how the education system needs to be reformed and youngsters need to be impacted. I would have met him more than 4 to 5 times and started visiting schools and colleges with the team for presentations. Anand offered me to consider joining the organisation as I was quite passionate and committed about the cause of inspiring youth in India.

But when he mentioned the amount that he could afford, I was taken aback as I was expecting much more and I was not ready to take such a big hit on the monthly remuneration. So I did not accept the offer and continued doing freelance work. After a month or so, in a meeting, Anand asked me what is the bare minimum that I can go ahead with. I was not too sure about this, because I had just shifted my parents with me and costs had gone up. So I mentioned a reasonable amount and Anand promptly accepted it and asked me to join.

As I joined Dheya, I went through a complete metamorphosis. I was just not used to an entrepreneurial organisation with complete openness and transparency and completely focussed on Results. Anand is  a very jovial person, but when it comes to Business and Results, he is the most feared person in the office and he is direct and blunt and does not mince words in calling a failure a failure and openly in front of everyone. Coming from a structured hierarchial organisation and working in a small dinghy office with just 8-9 people, most of them very young in their twenties, it was a bit difficult to digest initially. The first few months was quite tormenting and I used to keep thinking if I have taken the right decision or not. But as I got to know Anand better, the one thing that kept me stuck on is the "value systems" and "principles" and "knowledge" that was displayed by Anand. He was not the typical business owner who only looked at the numbers, but wanted 'value' and "excellence" and I saw the opportunity of learning something new and growing here. I knew it was going to be tough to gain acceptance here as I was an outsider and completely exposed to my lack of experience and expertise in education market, as well as sales or marketing which happened to be the main focus here.

Anand on the other hand, gave me the upper hand and involved me in all decisions and took me along for all business meetings as well as trainings. I used to wonder whether I could actually deliver to the expectations of handling the business, because he used to tell me that I was a Business partner and therefore would be looking after the Business also as a Research Director. After a couple of failures in launching some business models as well as some cardinal critical mistakes I made, I gradually gained confidence in "mentoring" and the "psychometrics" field and started my foray into "CDF Training", which happened quite organically. I had the privilege of shadowing Anand and learnt on the job by watching him and just following the processes, initially.  Things started happening very rapidly thereon and I was travelling most weekends across India conducting training programs and certification of mentors. I also started negotiating and discussing business proposals and have learnt the art of negotiation and sales to a large extent today.

As I worked at Dheya, I have conducted more than 70 training programs for senior professionals from the industry, conducted more than 350 mentoring sessions for students along with their parents and have developed a good reputation as a career mentor and a Trainer of mentors. I am well known for my energy levels during training and the passion as a mentor and trainer. I have a deep level understanding of the work we are doing and now have dreams of taking this to the next level of going much deeper as we work with students as their "Life Mentors".

One thing is for sure, I have a good night's sleep each day and transfer a lot of the positive energy to my family when I get back home from work. As  I read my previous blogs before I left the uniformed service, I realized that the reason I joined Dheya was because it resonated with what I wanted to do and I was not ready or did not have an idea as to how to implement the idea that I had in my mind to reform the education system. Now, being a Director at Dheya, I have realised that slowly, I have metamorphosed into an entrepreneur, who has learnt and still learning the "art of living" with positive aspirations and hope of an infinite growth while impacting the entire nation.  I am living my dream and am fortunate to be part of a revolution that will rock India very soon.

Jai Hind!!

So Far, So Good... Lots of learnings happening and intend to continue learning and growing......

Sunday 10 May 2020

Man Proposes... God Disposes....My Life Line



MAN Proposes... GOD disposes... My Lifeline as it was.....


  • 16 years: Wanted to get into IIT.. Studied very Hard.. Gave up Table Tennis, gave up everything..
    • Got into MREC Jaipur & Indian Navy
  • 18 years: Chose Indian Navy and wanted to be an Electrical and Electronics Engineer
    • Got selected and nominated by Naval Headquarters into Mechanical engineering 
  • 28 years: Wanted to do a PhD in active noise cancellation after topping my Masters
    • Got pushed into a Training Billet, submarine and into design later
  • 38 years: Wanted to sail as a commander on a capital ship
    • Was dry-listed (shore billets only) and posted as OIC of  Submarine Design cell in MDL
  • 39 years: Wanted to redefine the entire design directorate for futuristic design
    • Was wet-blanketed to just do things within the framework
  • 41 years: Wanted to do something in Agriculture and education after leaving Navy
    • Got into a Shipyard as a GM Design at Goa
  • 42 years: Wanted to learn more about corporate world
    • Learnt more about running marathons and Ultramarathons and made great friends and name all across the country
  • 43 years: Wanted to teach and help students aspire for large Goals
    • Got into Career Mentoring for students and professionals and developed good reputation as an Entrepreneur, Master trainer of Mentors and a Career Mentor. Developed knowledge of psychometrics, positive psychology and BhagwadGita and Upanishads for application in my role as a mentor. 
FINALLY.. GOD SEEMS TO HAVE ALIGNED ME TOWARDS A RELATED AREA

Agriculture is still a distant dream.. I have no experience but believe that it is a life skill that everyone should develop.. to learn to grow vegetables and fruits and flowers.. Because it is a basic need that has to be fulfilled lifelong and if you can grow some basic stuff.. You can be independent of vendors..or at-least create a self sustaining system for subsistence.

I believe in complete FREEDOM , no dependence on anyone for basic needs. Each human being should be capable of sustaining themselves to the best possible manner with minimum dependence on an external agency/ vendor/ shop..

COVID-19 is forcibly teaching this lesson to mankind. But are people learning anything or still caught up in their normal delusion?

  • 48 years: Want to leave the Urban Premises and shift to a natural habitat to discover and learn more about SELF( Research on Upanishads and Gita and discover the True Self)  & continue working with youth and helping them aspire to be inspirational individuals in their career. 
    • Waiting to see where I go next... ???

Life is UNPREDICTABLE as if you are a puppet with strings in someone's hands and YES, you do make choices but not necessarily what you would have planned for yourself.. So it is a volatile, uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous (VUCA) future there for all of us..

But surely, I enjoyed every bit of my life journey above in every role. I made the most of it personally and professionally. Looking back, there is NO repentance, just memories and friends who came along on the path and have become acquaintances now but whenever we meet, there are amazing stories to share. Life is a "Story-Book" with many stories and at the end of it, one must enjoy reading each of these stories.

 Man Proposes... God Disposes.................My life line as it is....


Wednesday 22 April 2020


My Maiden  Official Visit to China

By Naveen Badrinarayan

I was on a visit to China on official purpose. This was my first visit to this country and the itinerary has been booked to ensure that all my energy was zapped by the time I reach the point of destination. Well, I needed to go to a place called “Quinzhou” which was approximately 300kms drive from a place called “Quingdao” pronounced as “Chingdao” , I got a bad stare when I pronounced it wrongly at the domestic airport  check-in counter.  Well, the itinerary was planned as follows:-

Goa-Mumbai; Mumbai –Hongkong; HongKong –Shanghai; Shanghia-Quingdao; Quingdao –Quinzhou by road.  To start with, the Goa-Mumbai journey was pleasant and I got to take some awesome snaps of the sunset from the plane as I was in the window seat. The Mumbai Hongkong flight was at 2300 hrs and I again got a window seat in the mid-section of Cathay Pacific airlines Aircraft, the seats were quite comfortable to sit, but the journey was about 5-6 hrs and in the night, so I was wondering how I am going to sit through the whole night, as I am not used to travelling like this. My seat partner was a lady who was struggling with her luggage as she entered the plane and she requested the steward of the plane to help her, and I was really surprised when he too said that he may not be able to lift the suitcase alone. And then is when I stepped in and offered my muscular services to lift the “heavy” suitcase of the damsel in distress, and I noticed that this lady had a strange tattoo on her arm in Sanskrit something like: “Anugatchami Pravahim”. As we got comfortable in our own seats and after customary introductions, I asked her about this tattoo, to which she replied that “Anu” was her name, full name “AnuPriya”  and this tattoo meant  Anu goes as per the flow”, and she believed in living life that way. She said that a lot of planning can be done but sometimes the flow takes you in a particular direction and you just move on regardless of what you plan. I smiled secretly, because strangely the same thoughts were playing on my mind a while back and to meet a person who echoed the same sentiments quite close to the time it was playing in my mind seemed too much of a coincidence, or is it the “secret” working that what you think in your mind and your vibrations attract similar people. We started chatting about her job, what she thought about Mumbai vs Hong Kong where her husband lives. She seemed to like Mumbai a lot, living in Malad, and said that Hong Kong can never be a place to live, it was good for business but life is much better at Mumbai because of the friend circle and the network of friends.  I also met up with a gentleman from Hong Kong named “Ajoy” who was working for a Technology company, I think he said “I Gates” and we started chatting at the boarding queue, when I was mentioning that I was not liking the idea of this kind of business travel where you have to travel the whole night in sitting position. He also said that he travels to Hong Kong regularly as his wife stays there and he works at Mumbai, but he manages to travel only once in six months and I wondered about how he was managing his family life.

                Anyways, on the plane, I managed to toss and turn in my seat throughout the night, the pillow shifting positions from behind my lower back to behind my head and sometimes on the side panel of the aircraft from where it used to fall off on the floor though the gap between the seat and the panel. I was struggling throughout the night to catch a comfortable position to sleep, and whenever I used to open my eyes, I used to see this lady (my seat partner) coolly sitting and watching a movie. She did not sleep the whole night, and when I asked her in the morning, she simply replied that it was way too uncomfortable to sleep, so she did not sleep.  So the second part of the itinerary ended at Hong Kong with a dreary eyed self, with my tummy growling as I had not had my early morning hot milk and therefore my bowels were creating trouble to move.  Sometimes I wonder why and how we become slaves to our own habit patterns and any change in lifestyle causes havoc in our systems.

Then at Hong Kong, we had to move to the other terminal to board the flight to Shanghai, which was a connecting flight and the boarding passes were already there with us, so that was an easy part. An amazing thing about China, in spite of the great population, their systems are all in place and I did not have to stand in a queue for more than 10 minutes anywhere.  I was observing the staff and found them all too be very efficient and attentive, not one person was lazy or casual, whether the ground staff, the security guys or the immigration staff. All of them were extremely efficient in performing their respective duties. The “chalta hai” attitude which is a hallmark of Indian employees was completely absent here, and I think that is one major reason why China is doing so well in all fields.

The Hong Kong to Shanghai flight was for about 3 hrs and it was not all that interesting except that i watched “2 states” movie for the second time and I kind of found a lot of similarities between self and the male protagonist in terms of his aspirations of becoming a writer, and that is why I am writing this story too. I love writing about my experiences and about the feelings that I go through, it gives me some kind of innate pleasure and I can sit and write my thoughts for hours together without feeling tired, so I am just letting the flow take me:  naveengatchami Pravahim” is it?  I liked that tattoo very much really; it is time I also did some tattooing and ear piercing as I have always wanted to do something freaky after shedding my uniform, having led a much disciplined way of life for about 25 years in the Indian Navy.   We reached Shanghai at about 1145 hrs and the next domestic flight was at 1905 hrs, so there was a lot of time. I thought it would be possible to do a little bit of sightseeing, but the ground staff in the domestic check-in counter warned us that the sub-way / metro was way too crowded and if we went out, we would definitely get delayed as any place is too far off from the airport. I did not want to believe this guy, and my temptations took me to the travel counter, where I noticed a separate counter for “MAGLEV” and a round ticket was being sold, and I learnt that this train which runs on magnetic levitation principle, runs to Longyang station and back every fifteen minutes, so I decided to experience the 300Km/hr speed and the

 Maglev train of Shanghai. 

It was a nice experience to see the sights of Shanghai highways and the various industries. I would like to mention here that I did notice a very unnatural way of development; I noticed many houses were reduced to rubble and a lot of undeveloped land with rubble of broken down houses was visible. It looked eerie to me and I wondered if some people had been evicted from their poor homes to ensure that Shanghai looked good as a business capital. I did not get a good feeling while looking at the sprawling buildings and highways and artificially grown trees on the entire landscape.  China seems to be extremely rich at least in the airport where you see so many people wearing the best of dresses and travelling on flights in large numbers, with state of art security systems and uniformed personnel alertly and actively functioning, but somewhere deep down I have this feeling that there is a darker side to this story of glory. I am not saying that development is not good, only it should not be at the cost of increasing the inequality between the rich and poor. Development has to be all inclusive and should attempt to reduce the gap between the ultra rich and the poverty stricken. The only way that this can be done is by laying emphasis on the Primary Goods viz. agricultural products and making agriculture and forests productive and profitable. If secondary goods like real estate, machinery, clothes etc. are the only emphasis and a balance is not struck, the day is not far when the primary goods would be depleted to that extent that we would not be able to further exploit it for the secondary goods. The day is inevitable, it is only a question of time and this greed for paper money will lead to devastation.  

Visit to QuingDao & Quinzhou.                 Stay in the hotel at Quingdao, typical as in any international five star hotel, comfortable and spacious, I really wonder why so much of luxury, but after a hectic travel schedule, such comfort is a pleasure as it allows one to recuperate and be ready for work. So all I remember is taking a nice warm shower and crashing to bed after a glass of hot chocolate from room service.  Next day morning at about 0930 hrs, we commenced our road trip to this place called “Quinzhou”, where the factory of this company I was visiting is, and I must say, though Quingdao is an international destination, Quinzhou is much more historical and beautiful. It was not the right season to visit Quinzhou as this place is well known for its flowers and fruit trees. After work, on the first day, I had the opportunity of visiting the old city of Quinzhou, it was really beautiful with stone paved roads, buildings made of stone with ancient sculptures outside. The lighting of the entire street and the buildings with a waterfront (I think a canal or a lake) was really making this place resemble a European tourist spot with amazing views. It was pretty cold, temperatures ranging somewhere close to -4/-5 degrees Celsius.  I decided to go for a run the next morning and was wondering how I would be able to cope with the cold conditions. Nevertheless, I made up my mind to step out and since I was not carrying any track pants, I wore trousers, jackets on top and stepped out into the unforgiving cold morning. I ran fast and turned into a beautiful stone paved road which extends for about 4K and could feel my thumb tip freezing and becoming numb. I quickly clenched my fist and hid my thumb and started running a bit faster hoping to get more warmth. After about 15 minutes, I was sweating and I realised that my body was warm enough and I started feeling comfortable except that I had a running nose, which I kept clearing as I ran. I noticed that many people were up and about, some of them on two wheelers- electrical bikes, and looked as if they had already started going to their offices. On the way back, I entered into a garden where I saw a group of people practicing  “Tai-Chi” and then I also saw two TT tables in the open and people playing TT.I was immediately attracted as TT was my first love, and I played a game of TT there with an old man. I was feeling great to have started the morning so well.


  

While returning back , we drove from Quingzhou to Quindao and my host was unwell, so I offered to drive his car, an automatic transmission Volkswagen Passat( left hand drive), and I got a feel of the Chinese highways. It was a good experience for me, I did not drive too fast, was maintaining a speed of 100-110 kph and drove for about 100 kms, and handed over the wheel as soon as we reached the city limits, lest I got arrested for driving without an international driving license. On the way we had lunch at a local Chinese restaurant overlooking a beautiful lake. Chinese are great hosts, they overfeed you and most of the times, the food gets wasted, but I was told that it is always like that. I told my host to order less in order to do justice. So he ordered a dish made of tomatoes and eggs, and another dish of “eggplant” which is not my preferred vegetable, but I just kept quiet and decided to have it gracefully as a decent guest. I was surprised when the dish arrived, the eggplant dish looked like French fries and as I tasted it, it was having a tangy taste and was crisp. I loved the taste. I almost finished the entire plate. We also had a plate of steamed rice noodles each and we were feeling very heavily fed.

I reached back to Quingdao and checked into the Crown Plaza hotel, and as I entered my room, I realized that my official mobile phone was missing. I tried calling my host and checked his car but was unable to find the phone. I thought I might have left it in the restaurant on the way, my host knew the owners of the restaurant and called them up, but with unsuccessful results. I was feeling very bad that on my first official trip, I was irresponsible enough to have lost my official phone. Nevertheless, I immediately mailed to my office administration that I had lost the mobile phone. I was about to crash for the night when the phone rang in the hotel and I was surprised as it was about 2230 hrs. It was my host and he had come to the hotel as he had found the phone below the driver seat, I think it must have fallen from my pocket when I was driving the car. I was very relieved and thankful to my host.

The return journey was quite uneventful except that the domestic travel in China was as good as or even better than the international travel. I did not have to wait anywhere for more than 5 -10 minutes, and as I entered the Mumbai international customs clearance, the long serpentine queue was a sore to my eyes. To add to the sore, I found a number of people forming double and triple queues and trying to break the line. A lady tried talking sense to one gentleman who had casually walked with his trolley and joined laterally into the line in front of an old couple, but he was not ready to budge and continued moving ahead shamelessly. I wonder why people from India have to behave in this manner. Is it because our systems are inefficient and everyone feels that their personal time is more important than the other’s time, and rules are meant to be broken? While I agree that the number of manual checkings and systems in India are not yet efficient enough, patience is a virtue that needs to be ingrained in each individual. Respect for other people’s time and courtesies are another thing which needs to be ingrained, especially when we are travelling internationally and are exposed to the international systems. Even a country like China with a larger population than ours has managed to make their systems efficient and people are very well behaved there. So we cannot just blame our population, there is more to this.

Chinese have a tremendous sense of discipline, commitment and energy at work and it is something that India has to learn. While this comes from a fear of losing their jobs, this kind of competitive spirit is healthy for a country’s well-being. Sometimes I feel democracy is being murdered by our citizens when we don’t respect our own country’s rules and blatantly blame government and public agencies for their inefficiencies. If we ourselves don’t follow rules, how do we expect our government to do anything worthwhile? After all, people like us only are sitting on those positions of authority and responsibility.  So the good things that we Indians must learn from the Chinese is the integrity and sense of commitment to their work, but at the same time, we must retain our spiritual essence and respect mother nature, not getting swayed by greed for paper money. It is only by a combination of these two values that India can change and grow to much greater heights than what China is today. However much advancement in technology happens, when nature unleashes its power, nothing stands before it. Therefore we must learn to respect nature and look after our primary goods with utmost care and respect. Only then will this great “Hindu” land remain blessed.

Secondly, Indians take more pride in calling themselves Punjabis or Tamilians or Goans than Indians. Why do we have so much of fragmentation in our societies, while we are culturally diverse, we need to develop a sense of national unity and relate to each other, irrespective of which state we belong to. I have been asked innumerable times in Goa: “Where are you from?”, Since I do not have any ancestral property and have been all over India, I always reply proudly that “I am an Indian”, but they are not satisfied. They want to know, which place or state I belong to.  What is to be said if I do not have a state to name as my own, am I not permitted to live freely in any place I desire in India, do I really have to be a domicile of a state to enjoy the public services of any place in India? Why are these rules made to differentiate between people from two states? Why can’t it be more open and let each person decide where he/she wants to live freely as an Indian? I am ready to learn different languages and eat the kind of food that people eat in different places, so why can’t I be accepted as a Goan as long as I am living in Goa? Unless we develop unity in our rich diversity, we cannot grow as a country as we will never develop respect for a nation and always be short sighted in our approach. We have to stop forming “tribes” and be open to changes and mixed cultures. By the way, in my travelling experience all over India, I find tremendous similarities in various places in the way people live and eat etc.  so it is really not a big deal to accept an “outsider” as your own. So I request the Goans to consider me also as a Goan at least as long as I live here.


Thursday 15 August 2019

5 years into Civvy Street

Well, it has been a while since I sat down to pen a few thoughts. Have I been settling down in my new 'avataar'? Has the unguided missile found a final direction? I don't know as of yet, but Yes, a lot of what I had thought of 5 years back before I left my uniform has still stood strong and I am actually living a life what I had envisaged.

As I read my blog written 5 years ago, I loved the statement "from the stale well into the seething oceans of sea state 5 and more". Well, an entrepreneurial life style is well described by this statement, only that I have stopped looking at settling down now and want to remain in action and keep learning each day how to grow and impact more people in this world.

The first few months of the 5 years civvy street life was experimental as I tried doing a job with a shipyard and realised the futility and vanity of it, fortunately much sooner than later and in six months I was out of it. I further did a lot of sensing around to get into the education system, primarily with an intent of impacting youngsters. I did teaching assignments in an Engineering college and also took some private tuitions. Something seemed amiss here too. I was not getting the feeling of happiness and satisfaction being a "professor" of fixed curriculum, though I considered myself pretty good at teaching and did get huge compliments on my teaching styles from faculty as well as students.

"The missile is still astray and seeking a proper direction."

I found an advertisement about career guidance that seemed interesting and immediately called up the number and enquired. They were talking about a structured mechanism of guiding young students and a training to become a mentor. I wanted to explore this opportunity. I visited the office and met a lady there who explained the process of training to me and said that post training I would be eligible to conduct a basic report explanation to students. I was pretty upset and told her that I considered myself much more than just a report explainer. She told me that I would have to go for advanced training to do that. I was not that convinced, but anyways, I was happy with the content and proposal shown to me, so I signed up for this 2 days training program.

And so my journey in "DHEYA" commenced with a 2 days training program where I got introduced to Anand Desai, the founder and CEO and Aditi Bhattacharya, the co-founder. Anand conducted the training and I got introduced to "psychometrics" and a tool to understand the nature of human beings.
It was an amazing tool and I was surprised to see how well it matched with my personality. I suddenly felt that there was a way in which a youngster can actually know what is their inner calling without much difficulty and can take their own decisions of career choices without getting affected by peer pressure and jumping into a rat race.

I was doing this as a part time activity and I got an immediate opportunity to conduct some sessions of students in an engineering college at Islampur and I spent two days there. It was an enriching experience and I was completely bought in by the concept. However, Dheya was a very small organisation and I was skeptical about how this would grow. I started visiting Dheya quite often to meet Anand and started conversations about how the education system needs to be reformed and youngsters need to be impacted. I would have met him more than 4 to 5 times and started visiting schools and colleges with the team for presentations. Anand offered me to consider joining the organisation as I was quite passionate and committed about the cause of inspiring youth in India.

But when he mentioned the amount that he could afford, I was taken aback as I was expecting much more and I was not ready to take such a big hit on the monthly remuneration. So I did not accept the offer and continued doing freelance work. After a month or so, in a meeting, Anand asked me what is the bare minimum that I can go ahead with. I was not too sure about this, because I had just shifted my parents with me and costs had gone up. So I mentioned a reasonable amount and Anand promptly accepted it and asked me to join.

As I joined Dheya, I went through a complete metamorphosis. I was just not used to an entrepreneurial organisation with complete openness and transparency and completely focussed on Results. Anand is  a very jovial person, but when it comes to Business and Results, he is the most feared person in the office and he is direct and blunt and does not mince words in calling a failure a failure and openly in front of everyone. Coming from a structured hierarchial organisation and working in a small dinghy office with just 8-9 people, most of them very young in their twenties, it was a bit difficult to digest initially. The first few months was quite tormenting and I used to keep thinking if I have taken the right decision or not. But as I got to know Anand better, the one thing that kept me stuck on is the "value systems" and "principles" and "knowledge" that was displayed by Anand. He was not the typical business owner who only looked at the numbers, but wanted 'value' and "excellence" and I saw the opportunity of learning something new and growing here. I knew it was going to be tough to gain acceptance here as I was an outsider and completely exposed to my lack of experience and expertise in education market, as well as sales or marketing which happened to be the main focus here.

Anand on the other hand, gave me the upper hand and involved me in all decisions and took me along for all business meetings as well as trainings. I used to wonder whether I could actually deliver to the expectations of handling the business, because he used to tell me that I was a Business partner and therefore would be looking after the Business also as a Research Director. After a couple of failures in launching some business models as well as some cardinal critical mistakes I made, I gradually gained confidence in "mentoring" and the "psychometrics" field and started my foray into "CDF Training", which happened quite organically. I had the privilege of shadowing Anand and learnt on the job by watching him and just following the processes, initially.  Things started happening very rapidly thereon and I was travelling most weekends across India conducting training programs and certification of mentors. I also started negotiating and discussing business proposals and have learnt the art of negotiation and sales to a large extent today.

As I worked at Dheya, I have conducted more than 70 training programs for senior professionals from the industry, conducted more than 350 mentoring sessions for students along with their parents and have developed a good reputation as a career mentor and a Trainer of mentors. I am well known for my energy levels during training and the passion as a mentor and trainer. I have a deep level understanding of the work we are doing and now have dreams of taking this to the next level of going much deeper as we work with students as their "Life Mentors".

One thing is for sure, I have a good night's sleep each day and transfer a lot of the positive energy to my family when I get back home from work. As  I read my previous blogs before I left the uniformed service, I realized that the reason I joined Dheya was because it resonated with what I wanted to do and I was not ready or did not have an idea as to how to implement the idea that I had in my mind to reform the education system. Now, being a Director at Dheya, I have realised that slowly, I have metamorphosed into an entrepreneur, who has learnt and still learning the "art of living" with positive aspirations and hope of an infinite growth while impacting the entire nation.  I am living my dream and am fortunate to be part of a revolution that will rock India very soon.

Jai Hind!!

So Far, So Good... Lots of learnings happening and intend to continue learning and growing......

Tuesday 6 January 2015


My Maiden  Official Visit to China

By Naveen Badrinarayan

I was on a visit to China on official purpose. This was my first visit to this country and the itinerary had been booked to ensure that all my energy was zapped by the time I reached the point of destination. Well, I needed to go to a place called “Quinzhou” which was approximately 300kms drive from a place called “Quingdao” pronounced as “Chingdao” , I got a bad stare when I pronounced it wrongly at the domestic airport  check-in counter.  Well, the itinerary was planned as follows:-

Goa-Mumbai; Mumbai –Hongkong; HongKong –Shanghai; Shanghia-Quingdao; Quingdao –Quinzhou by road.  To start with, the Goa-Mumbai journey was pleasant and I got to take some awesome snaps of the sunset from the plane as I was in the window seat. The Mumbai Hongkong flight was at 2300 hrs and I again got a window seat in the mid-section of Cathay Pacific airlines Aircraft, the seats were quite comfortable to sit, but the journey was about 5-6 hrs and in the night, so I was wondering how I am going to sit through the whole night, as I am not used to travelling like this. My seat partner was a lady who was struggling with her luggage as she entered the plane and she requested the steward of the plane to help her, and I was really surprised when he too said that he may not be able to lift the suitcase alone. And then is when I stepped in and offered my muscular services to lift the “heavy” suitcase of the damsel in distress, and I noticed that this lady had a strange tattoo on her arm in Sanskrit something like: “Anugatchami Pravahim”. As we got comfortable in our own seats and after customary introductions, I asked her about this tattoo, to which she replied that “Anu” was her name, full name “AnuPriya”  and this tattoo meant  Anu goes as per the flow”, and she believed in living life that way. She said that a lot of planning can be done but sometimes the flow takes you in a particular direction and you just move on regardless of what you plan. I smiled secretly, because strangely the same thoughts were playing on my mind a while back and to meet a person who echoed the same sentiments quite close to the time it was playing in my mind seemed too much of a coincidence, or is it the “secret” working that what you think in your mind and your vibrations attract similar people. We started chatting about her job, what she thought about Mumbai vs Hong Kong where her husband lives. She seemed to like Mumbai a lot, living in Malad, and said that Hong Kong can never be a place to live, it was good for business but life is much better at Mumbai because of the friend circle and the network of friends.  I also met up with a gentleman from Hong Kong named “Ajoy” who was working for a Technology company, I think he said “I Gates” and we started chatting at the boarding queue, when I was mentioning that I was not liking the idea of this kind of business travel where you have to travel the whole night in sitting position. He also said that he travels to Hong Kong regularly as his wife stays there and he works at Mumbai, but he manages to travel only once in six months and I wondered about how he was managing his family life.
                Anyways, on the plane, I managed to toss and turn in my seat throughout the night, the pillow shifting positions from behind my lower back to behind my head and sometimes on the side panel of the aircraft from where it used to fall off on the floor though the gap between the seat and the panel. I was struggling throughout the night to catch a comfortable position to sleep, and whenever I used to open my eyes, I used to see this lady (my seat partner) coolly sitting and watching a movie. She did not sleep the whole night, and when I asked her in the morning, she simply replied that it was way too uncomfortable to sleep, so she did not sleep.  So the second part of the itinerary ended at Hong Kong with a dreary eyed self, with my tummy growling as I had not had my early morning hot milk and therefore my bowels were creating trouble to move.  Sometimes I wonder why and how we become slaves to our own habit patterns and any change in lifestyle causes havoc in our systems.

Then at Hong Kong, we had to move to the other terminal to board the flight to Shanghai, which was a connecting flight and the boarding passes were already there with us, so that was an easy part. An amazing thing about China, in spite of the great population, their systems are all in place and I did not have to stand in a queue for more than 10 minutes anywhere.  I was observing the staff and found them all too be very efficient and attentive, not one person was lazy or casual, whether the ground staff, the security guys or the immigration staff. All of them were extremely efficient in performing their respective duties. The “chalta hai” attitude which is a hallmark of Indian employees was completely absent here, and I think that is one major reason why China is doing so well in all fields.

The Hong Kong to Shanghai flight was for about 3 hrs and it was not all that interesting except that i watched “2 states” movie for the second time and I kind of found a lot of similarities between self and the male protagonist in terms of his aspirations of becoming a writer, and that is why I am writing this story too. I love writing about my experiences and about the feelings that I go through, it gives me some kind of innate pleasure and I can sit and write my thoughts for hours together without feeling tired, so I am just letting the flow take me:  naveengatchami Pravahim” is it?  I liked that tattoo very much really; it is time I also did some tattooing and ear piercing as I have always wanted to do something freaky after shedding my uniform, having led a much disciplined way of life for about 25 years in the Indian Navy.   We reached Shanghai at about 1145 hrs and the next domestic flight was at 1905 hrs, so there was a lot of time. I thought it would be possible to do a little bit of sightseeing, but the ground staff in the domestic check-in counter warned us that the sub-way / metro was way too crowded and if we went out, we would definitely get delayed as any place is too far off from the airport. I did not want to believe this guy, and my temptations took me to the travel counter, where I noticed a separate counter for “MAGLEV” and a round ticket was being sold, and I learnt that this train which runs on magnetic levitation principle, runs to Longyang station and back every fifteen minutes, so I decided to experience the 300Km/hr speed and the Maglev train of Shanghai. 
It was a nice experience to see the sights of Shanghai highways and the various industries. I would like to mention here that I did notice a very unnatural way of development; I noticed many houses were reduced to rubble and a lot of undeveloped land with rubble of broken down houses was visible. It looked eerie to me and I wondered if some people had been evicted from their poor homes to ensure that Shanghai looked good as a business capital. I did not get a good feeling while looking at the sprawling buildings and highways and artificially grown trees on the entire landscape.  China seems to be extremely rich at least in the airport where you see so many people wearing the best of dresses and travelling on flights in large numbers, with state of art security systems and uniformed personnel alertly and actively functioning, but somewhere deep down I have this feeling that there is a darker side to this story of glory. I am not saying that development is not good, only it should not be at the cost of increasing the inequality between the rich and poor. Development has to be all inclusive and should attempt to reduce the gap between the ultra rich and the poverty stricken. The only way that this can be done is by laying emphasis on the Primary Goods viz. agricultural products and making agriculture and forests productive and profitable. If secondary goods like real estate, machinery, clothes etc. are the only emphasis and a balance is not struck, the day is not far when the primary goods would be depleted to that extent that we would not be able to further exploit it for the secondary goods. The day is inevitable, it is only a question of time and this greed for paper money will lead to devastation.  

Visit to QuingDao & Quinzhou.                 Stay in the hotel at Quingdao, typical as in any international five star hotel, comfortable and spacious, I really wonder why so much of luxury, but after a hectic travel schedule, such comfort is a pleasure as it allows one to recuperate and be ready for work. So all I remember is taking a nice warm shower and crashing to bed after a glass of hot chocolate from room service.  Next day morning at about 0930 hrs, we commenced our road trip to this place called “Quinzhou”, where the factory of this company I was visiting is, and I must say, though Quingdao is an international destination, Quinzhou is much more historical and beautiful. It was not the right season to visit Quinzhou as this place is well known for its flowers and fruit trees. After work, on the first day, I had the opportunity of visiting the old city of Quinzhou, it was really beautiful with stone paved roads, buildings made of stone with ancient sculptures outside. The lighting of the entire street and the buildings with a waterfront (I think a canal or a lake) was really making this place resemble a European tourist spot with amazing views. It was pretty cold, temperatures ranging somewhere close to -4/-5 degrees Celsius.  I decided to go for a run the next morning and was wondering how I would be able to cope with the cold conditions. Nevertheless, I made up my mind to step out and since I was not carrying any track pants, I wore trousers, jackets on top and stepped out into the unforgiving cold morning. I ran fast and turned into a beautiful stone paved road which extends for about 4K and could feel my thumb tip freezing and becoming numb. I quickly clenched my fist and hid my thumb and started running a bit faster hoping to get more warmth. After about 15 minutes, I was sweating and I realised that my body was warm enough and I started feeling comfortable except that I had a running nose, which I kept clearing as I ran. I noticed that many people were up and about, some of them on two wheelers- electrical bikes, and looked as if they had already started going to their offices. On the way back, I entered into a garden where I saw a group of people practicing  “Tai-Chi” and then I also saw two TT tables in the open and people playing TT.I was immediately attracted as TT was my first love, and I played a game of TT there with an old man. I was feeling great to have started the morning so well.

  
While returning back , we drove from Quingzhou to Quindao and my host was unwell, so I offered to drive his car, an automatic transmission Volkswagen Passat( left hand drive), and I got a feel of the Chinese highways. It was a good experience for me, I did not drive too fast, was maintaining a speed of 100-110 kph and drove for about 100 kms, and handed over the wheel as soon as we reached the city limits, lest I got arrested for driving without an international driving license. On the way we had lunch at a local Chinese restaurant overlooking a beautiful lake. Chinese are great hosts, they overfeed you and most of the times, the food gets wasted, but I was told that it is always like that. I told my host to order less in order to do justice. So he ordered a dish made of tomatoes and eggs, and another dish of “eggplant” which is not my preferred vegetable, but I just kept quiet and decided to have it gracefully as a decent guest. I was surprised when the dish arrived, the eggplant dish looked like French fries and as I tasted it, it was having a tangy taste and was crisp. I loved the taste. I almost finished the entire plate. We also had a plate of steamed rice noodles each and we were feeling very heavily fed.

I reached back to Quingdao and checked into the Crown Plaza hotel, and as I entered my room, I realized that my official mobile phone was missing. I tried calling my host and checked his car but was unable to find the phone. I thought I might have left it in the restaurant on the way, my host knew the owners of the restaurant and called them up, but with unsuccessful results. I was feeling very bad that on my first official trip, I was irresponsible enough to have lost my official phone. Nevertheless, I immediately mailed to my office administration that I had lost the mobile phone. I was about to crash for the night when the phone rang in the hotel and I was surprised as it was about 2230 hrs. It was my host and he had come to the hotel as he had found the phone below the driver seat, I think it must have fallen from my pocket when I was driving the car. I was very relieved and thankful to my host.

The return journey was quite uneventful except that the domestic travel in China was as good as or even better than the international travel. I did not have to wait anywhere for more than 5 -10 minutes, and as I entered the Mumbai international customs clearance, the long serpentine queue was a sore to my eyes. To add to the sore, I found a number of people forming double and triple queues and trying to break the line. A lady tried talking sense to one gentleman who had casually walked with his trolley and joined laterally into the line in front of an old couple, but he was not ready to budge and continued moving ahead shamelessly. I wonder why people from India have to behave in this manner. Is it because our systems are inefficient and everyone feels that their personal time is more important than the other’s time, and rules are meant to be broken? While I agree that the number of manual checkings and systems in India are not yet efficient enough, patience is a virtue that needs to be ingrained in each individual. Respect for other people’s time and courtesies are another thing which needs to be ingrained, especially when we are travelling internationally and are exposed to the international systems. Even a country like China with a larger population than ours has managed to make their systems efficient and people are very well behaved there. So we cannot just blame our population, there is more to this.

Chinese have a tremendous sense of discipline, commitment and energy at work and it is something that India has to learn. While this comes from a fear of losing their jobs, this kind of competitive spirit is healthy for a country’s well-being. Sometimes I feel democracy is being murdered by our citizens when we don’t respect our own country’s rules and blatantly blame government and public agencies for their inefficiencies. If we ourselves don’t follow rules, how do we expect our government to do anything worthwhile? After all, people like us only are sitting on those positions of authority and responsibility.  So the good things that we Indians must learn from the Chinese is the integrity and sense of commitment to their work, but at the same time, we must retain our spiritual essence and respect mother nature, not getting swayed by greed for paper money. It is only by a combination of these two values that India can change and grow to much greater heights than what China is today. However much advancement in technology happens, when nature unleashes its power, nothing stands before it. Therefore we must learn to respect nature and look after our primary goods with utmost care and respect. Only then will this great “Hindu” land remain blessed.

Secondly, Indians take more pride in calling themselves Punjabis or Tamilians or Goans than Indians. Why do we have so much of fragmentation in our societies, while we are culturally diverse, we need to develop a sense of national unity and relate to each other, irrespective of which state we belong to. I have been asked innumerable times in Goa: “Where are you from?”, Since I do not have any ancestral property and have been all over India, I always reply proudly that “I am an Indian”, but they are not satisfied. They want to know, which place or state I belong to.  What is to be said if I do not have a state to name as my own, am I not permitted to live freely in any place I desire in India, do I really have to be a domicile of a state to enjoy the public services of any place in India? Why are these rules made to differentiate between people from two states? Why can’t it be more open and let each person decide where he/she wants to live freely as an Indian? I am ready to learn different languages and eat the kind of food that people eat in different places, so why can’t I be accepted as a Goan as long as I am living in Goa? Unless we develop unity in our rich diversity, we cannot grow as a country as we will never develop respect for a nation and always be short sighted in our approach. We have to stop forming “tribes” and be open to changes and mixed cultures. By the way, in my travelling experience all over India, I find tremendous similarities in various places in the way people live and eat etc.  so it is really not a big deal to accept an “outsider” as your own. So I request the Goans to consider me also as a Goan at least as long as I live here.

 

 

Wednesday 1 October 2014

Finally out of uniform...yes

"How do you feel?" , "What is the feeling like?" are the FAQs being asked to me by near and dear ones. Well personally I have been looking forward for this day for more than 3 years and as per plan had shifted my family to Pune six months back. So I was travelling on weekends to Pune and I had just taken  long leave of 30 days prior to retirement. So when I finally shed my uniform and joined my family on PM 30 Sep 14, it just felt as if I am proceeding on leave once again, only never to return back. No more reporting back genforms and proceeding genforms. Other than that, having been in service for 25 years i.e. right after 12th standard, had joined the Indian Navy as an officer cadet, so there is a feeling of blankness/ vacuum in the mind which cannot be expressed in words. 

But this milestone has been an evolution for my thinking pattern and the same continues. Each day brings on new thoughts and visions and challenges, but each of them is fresh and exciting. It is interesting to see and observe your own thought pattern and how it evolves. Finally, when I have moved out of uniformity into individuality, it will take some time to align my inner aspirations with actual actions, because all my life in the last 25 years, I have done what I was told and expected to do. "Uniformed life" is about following orders and doing things in a particular manner: "You are here to do and die, not to question how or why" is the adage of  the armed forces. Now life needs to be lived according to one's own nature and aspirations. So I think one needs to just be and do whatever comes to the mind without trying to ponder and question it. This way, slowly the thought pattern will evolve and allow one to understand the deeper aspirations. I have been the questioning kind of person all my life and probably that is in my nature, so I have a feeling that I did not belong in the uniformed environment, but these are just feelings and let my life flow from now on-wards and let me not make any auto-suggestions about what I am and am not.  

As "BhagwadGita" says, one must do what is in one's nature and not be unnatural. Each one of us have been born in this universe to carry out certain actions as per our nature and we must do those actions to the best of our ability. Meditation will help in identifying those deeper aspects of our mind and nature which have been hidden by the daily noise of this world. So the process has begun for me and I have started enjoying it. I intend taking each day as it comes and savour the flavours of life that it has to offer. 

Life is really exciting and interesting and I have started looking forward for each morning to do something new. Am I enjoying this phase, well,  Yes and would like to continue this for some time to come...

So, Hey, Life.. Here I come.... anew, afresh bubbling with enthusiasm and energy to take on newer challenges and enjoy each moment... 

Signing off ...

Naveen ( New is the meaning of this word and so it shall be ever as I keep renewing myself....)